And I think I’ve been avoiding saying it out loud because… once I do, I can’t really take it back. But here it is.
There is no one way to do screen time.
Not the right way. Not the expert way. Not the “if you just follow these five steps everything will be fine” way.
There’s only… your way.
And honestly?
I don’t have it figured out.
Over the years—through my clients, through conversations at schools and companies, through late-night texts with other parents—I’ve learned something that both comforts me and completely unsettles me.
We are all making this up as we go.
Even the people who sound like they have a system. Even the people who write the books. Even me. Because here’s the problem.
Technology is not standing still.
It’s not like nutrition. It’s not like sleep. It’s not even like education.
By the time we think we understand something… it changes.
New platforms.
New behaviors.
New norms.
And suddenly we’re back at the beginning again.
So what do we do?
For a long time, I thought the answer was:
More structure. More rules. More control.
And don’t get me wrong—those things matter. But they’re not the whole story. Because underneath all of it, what we’re really trying to do is not manage screens.
We’re trying to raise humans.
Humans with:
- judgment
- identity
- self-awareness
- restraint
- curiosity
And those things don’t come from a timer.
Lately, I’ve been asking myself a different question.
Not:“How do I control their screen time?”
But:“Who are my kids becoming while they’re on their screens?”
That question hits differently. Because if I focus on that…
Then maybe the goal isn’t perfection.
Maybe the goal is: Helping them build a relationship with technology that reflects who they are—and who they’re becoming.
Helping them notice:
- when they’re consuming vs creating
- when they feel good vs when they don’t
- when something is adding to their life vs taking from it
Helping them pause. Helping myself pause.
And if I’m being really honest… Some days it feels like we’re doing great. And some days it feels like everything is unraveling.
But maybe that’s the point. Maybe this isn’t something we solve. Maybe this is something we learn how to navigate.
Together.
Because at the end of the day, I don’t actually want kids who are perfectly regulated by rules. I want kids who are:
- thoughtful
- grounded
- self-aware
- able to make decisions when I’m not in the room
And I don’t think there’s a clean, perfect path to get there. So no. I don’t have a system that works every time. I don’t have a clean answer.
But I do have this: A belief that if I keep focusing on my kids—their character, their choices, their sense of self—
And if I keep coming back to intentional use…
Then maybe…
We can figure this out.
Together.
One family at a time.
One story at a time…
About a year ago, The Infinite Halls Podcast began as a tiny seed of an idea… a question, really:
What would happen if we created a space for honest, nuanced, no-judgment storytelling about parenting, technology, and the endless twists and turns of raising humans in the digital age?
Since then, that seed has grown… slowly, imperfectly, sometimes chaotically… but very, very meaningfully.
And now… it’s FINALLY READY TO LAUNCH.
Infinite Halls was built on one core belief: that in a world obsessed with hot takes, panic, and perfect answers, what families often need most is something quieter… real stories, thoughtful reflection, and a place to feel a little less alone.
This podcast is for parents, educators, technologists, and anyone trying to raise or guide humans in a hyperconnected world.
No judgment. No easy answers. Just honest conversations about screens, identity, connection, and what it means to stay human while technology keeps changing around us.
I’ve been reminding myself often: Progress, not perfection.
Because if I waited for perfect, this podcast would never exist.
My life partner has been joking that this podcast has officially taken longer than producing a baby… which, honestly, feels accurate. But in fairness, this took a lot more than just him. It took an extraordinary village.
This first season has become something bigger and better than I ever imagined:
• Journalists
• Tech leaders
• Educators
• Moms
• Lawyers
• Activists
• Storytellers
• People who challenged me, inspired me, and helped shape this journey
Together, we’ve created a season filled with:
• Sweet stories
• Stories of shock
• Stories of shame
• Stories of growth
• Stories of resilience
• And above all… stories that remind us we are not navigating this world aloneI
I’ll be launching on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, so I hope that you will tune in to listen, learn, and share the beautiful, messy, unfinished work of raising screen-smart humans together.
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